{"id":14163,"date":"2023-07-25T12:31:36","date_gmt":"2023-07-25T12:31:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fatherville.com\/?p=14163"},"modified":"2023-07-25T12:31:39","modified_gmt":"2023-07-25T12:31:39","slug":"dinner-time-will-save-democracy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fatherville.com\/index.php\/2023\/07\/25\/dinner-time-will-save-democracy\/","title":{"rendered":"Dinner time will save democracy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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What happened to dinnertime?  Asked that question lately? Amidst all the vitriol and egregious behavior, most solemnized with texts, likes, and emojis, we\u2019ve lost something, and that something, I think is America.  Dinnertime allowed us to come together. When you heard the bell, you dropped everything because you had to get home.  Dinnertime was where we heard many voices.  It\u2019s lost and so is the heritage it gave generations before us.  It was there, as Ronald Reagan once said, great change in America begins.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some weeks ago, I talked about dads and the journey we face and how taking the time to write our sons or our dads about our lives.  Recently I wrote my sons about rituals and challenged them to parcel out time to just sit and talk around the dinner table.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What a novel idea?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a recent Washington Post article, Christine Emba talked about men being lost.  She delved into the desperation, depression, and denial of this issue.  Men can\u2019t seem to get it together and many who can\u2019t find or keep a job are moving back home.  Suicide rates and depression are higher than ever for men.  And society doesn\u2019t seem to want to either acknowledge the issue or handle it other than nod their heads and say \u201cwe know.\u201d  So, it doesn\u2019t get talked about as you have men who are majoring in video games or addicted to porn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are real, not easy to handle and are not going away.  There is no forum for it.  Not on Facebook, Twitter, or Threads.  You won\u2019t hear anyone with any desire to get tenure discuss it in the classroom.  I tried over 15 years ago and the backlash from teaching men on who they are, how they can better themselves and that they\u2019re okay got cancelled.  And we don\u2019t have a forum at home to address.  Sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m truly anxious about a lot of things now.  Most of them I can\u2019t do very much about, but one thing I can do, and try to do is to encourage.  Among the ideas I have social media platforms as an opportunity to teach about heroes, history, and hope.  Those are things we all can incorporate into our lives, and share old ideas with just your voice.  And it could be something as simple as dinnertime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you remember those?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember discussing school, my friends, aspirations and sometimes being hurt.  It was at the dinner table when I first expressed an interest into going to college and that beacon began to shine as my sharecropping uncle and aunt began to enlist those around at church or school to help me understand it might be a dream, but it might happen.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was at the dinner table when our pastor came over that we discussed not only his sermon, but also the vision of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., and the virtue of the content of character. It wasn\u2019t idle conversation, and the fact I was at the table dispelled the idea that \u2018children should be seen and not heard.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dinnertime was valued.  It was a part of our landscape\u2014a Norman Rockwell painting.  There was time we talked about books or TV shows, but even after I went to college, I relished with my roommates, had discussions at the mess hall when I was in the army and the early days of being a parent.  It was truly a place to be fed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we continue our path and uncover the authenticity of who we are as a nation, it will be at the dinner table when fake news can be silenced, dreams validated, and America saved.  Dinnertime is the place where we put down the phones, we turn off the TV and we allow us time to hear our voices.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not easy, but worth bringing back to save the soul of our nation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Archie R. Wortham, PhD<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Professor Emeritus<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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